Everybody wants to be happy, to find that holy grail blueprint that will be the go-to formula that gives us that instant happiness. A lot of people believe that money does indeed buy happiness. I agree with this to a certain point, that yes of course you will be happier if you’re not having to stress over financial problems. Everyone would be a lot less stressed if they could all afford a nice vacation to that tropical island or that nice new designer purse they’ve been eyeballing. But that kind of happiness is fleeting, it comes and goes. It never sustains you because it’s not true happiness. True happiness comes from within and cannot be bought. It is a choice that you have to accept and it comes hand in hand with practicing self love.
I’ve had a lot of life changes happen in the past 6 months, some good and a lot of bad unfortunately. I just haven’t felt like myself and have been letting myself give into the darkness that I feel. I’m not depressed, I’ve just been given a lot on my plate and haven’t been handling it as well as I could be. So I’ve decided to take action into my own hands and work on getting happy again. I’ve been working on ME, which in turn helps my family too. I decided that I’m going to stop looking at this little period in my life as not a struggle but as an opportunity for growth.
So with that, I just want to say that I’m not going to turn For Blue Skies into a hippie, tree hugger type of blog or anything 🙂 I just want to work on striving to be a better person in general. I want to keep growing, as a momma, as a wife, as a person…I’m excited to keep you all updated 🙂
Apply these principles and ideas and see if they help you as well.
Stop Self Destructing With Social Media
I know I’m not the only one who will scroll through Instagram only to get a little (ok a lot!) jealous seeing all of the beautiful outfits and glamorous trips that people are posting about. I have to actually stop and remind myself that while it may appear that these people have it all together and have the perfect life, that’s not the case! People are naturally only going to post about happy times and you can’t gauge your self worth on this.
Practice Self Love
Work on finding self love and stop being so hard on yourself. Forgive yourself for the little things you’re beating yourself up about and enjoy life! Be a little selfish and put yourself first for once 🙂
Change is always a scary concept but it can be a good thing, even if it doesn’t seem like it at the time.
This a given. It may be hard to get started but trust me, there is nothing like a good workout. You’re not just burning calories, you’re also reducing stress and boosting your mood thanks to the rush of endorphins.
Even just putting aside 15 minutes to read is important to keep your mind active. It improves your focus and is proven to reduce stress. I use reading as my “me’ time, usually in bed or I’ll grab a few minutes while Ryder is sitting on the floor next to me playing.
Let go of worry, of guilt, of blame, of regrets, of comparing, etc. All of this just weighs you down.
Start A Morning Routine
If you don’t already do so, try and start your mornings in the best way possible. Wake up a little bit earlier so you can enjoy your breakfast a little bit longer, have that cup of coffee, do some light cleaning, etc. It’ll help set the pace for the rest of the day.
I want to finish up with this quote I found and posted on my Tumblr page.
“My goal in life is to be one of those people who are just light. You see them and you suddenly feel so warm inside and all you want to do is hug them. And they look at you and smile with the warmest light in their eyes…. and you love them. maybe not in a romantic way but you just want to be close to them and you hope some of their light transfers onto you.” – Author unknown to me at this time